Adam Spencer McMillan

It is with the deepest sorrow that we announce the death of our son, brother, family member and friend Adam Spencer McMillan.

Adam took his first breath in Sonoma, CA on July 18th, 1984 in his parent’s quiet, loving home and his last officially March 12th 2020 by suicide. His father Tom McMillan passed before him and he is survived by his mother Marci McMillan (Bostedt) and her husband Marc Mendelsohn, his older brothers Ryan McMillan and Jayson Bonnet, his aunts Mary, Susy and Nancy McMillan and Jane Bostedt, many other relatives and a myriad of loving friends who were like family.

We have all lost a very bright light. It is his warm, gentle, teddy bear nature, his laugh and bright sense of humor anyone who knew him even a little will remember most. He was always quick to make a joke and bring lightness with his humor. Adam's sensitive and gentle nature was sometimes hidden by his big burly presence.

Adam grew up in Glen Ellen, CA where he attended Dunbar Elementary School, Altimira Middle School, Saint Vincent De Paul High School in Petaluma and Sonoma Valley High. While not crazy about conventional school, Adam had an appetite to learn and preferred to do so on his own initiative. His friends and family depended on him as the go to resource for all things technical in everything from cars to computers. Adam was resourceful and intelligent and diligently achieved his career status of Data Analyst and Catalog Director for a Bay Area startup Company by teaching himself the skills. He worked long hours, but his favorite pastimes where fishing, cooking, video games and spending time with friends and family.

A celebration of Adam’s life will be planned once we are all safely able to congregate together again and will be announced by the family once it is determined.

Instead of monetary donations, please do an unexpected and unsolicited act of kindness for someone, anyone, even the ones you think are fine, for it may be that the ones like Adam who never share their pain are the ones who need it most.

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